Nav-A-Sutra: Working With Your Hands.
With Special Guest Julie Fatale
by Rachel Wilde
DISCLAIMER: The following may be offensive to some readers. This article is meant to serve as an introduction,
not as a guide. The Nav. advises that if you are interested, please do more research.
Fisting, the practice of inserting
a whole hand into a
woman’s vagina, is emotionally
and physically intense. It’s
all about trust and desire and
intimacy, and a woman has to
want to be fisted in order to
open herself so dramatically
to someone else.
However, for those who
crave deep penetration and
have the need to be completely
filled, nothing beats fisting
in giving those feelings. Even
the most subtle of movements
can feel gargantuan when you
are so unalterably penetrated.
As for those on the giving
end, fisting allows for an incredibly
primal connection.
When you’re that deep inside
a woman, you can feel every
minute ripple and pulse of her
arousal.
When done correctly, fisting
does not hurt. This is
because when a woman is
sexually aroused, her vagina
expands and balloons out;
which makes sense when you
remember that she is able to
expand enough to accommodate
a baby during birth.
However, fisting is all about
foreplay and arousal, and thus
requires plenty of time and
patience. This isn’t quickie
material.
Also, communication is
key to fisting. If a woman is
going to receive a hand in her
vagina, she needs to be relaxed
mentally as well as physically.
As such, make sure that she
is in charge of the whole process.
She needs to be aware of
her body and her needs so she
can communicate how much,
how fast, and how intensely
her partner can enter her. Remember,
if she says “stop,” do
so.
So, for those who’d like to
give fisting a try, here’s a stepby-
step how-to guide. First
of all, spend plenty of time
making sure the woman being
fisted is thoroughly turned
on. Once she is, put on a latex
glove and coat your hand liberally
with lube to reduce friction
and provide protection
from scratching and STIs.
Begin by inserting one finger
and then work your way
up to two, three, and four.
Some women may also enjoy
clitoral stimulation as you do
this, but for others it may be
too intense. Next, tuck your
thumb into the palm of your
hand and cup your fingers
around it, like a duck’s bill.
The idea, of course, is to try
and get your hand as small as
possible.
Enter her vagina up to
the widest part of your hand,
with your knuckles facing her
tailbone. Then, slowly rotate
your hand while gently pushing
in. Getting your knuckles
through is the most difficult
part, so add more lube
if needed. All the while, she
should be breathing deep and
trying to relax. A slight rotation
of the wrist should be all
you need to get past her pubic
bone and inside her vagina.
Your hand will naturally curl
up into a shape much like the
sign language letter “T” once
inside.
Remember, if it is too much
for her along the way, stop.
Take a break. Or, if things
start to hurt, back off to two
or three fingers, and work
your way back up with more
lube and maybe a different
angle. Let her take the lead.
Also, keep in mind that not
all women can tolerate fisting,
so you may have to stop
altogether. Remember it is her
pleasure you are after, so respect
her wishes.
Once you are inside, however,
you can hold still, gently
move in and out, or gently
rotate your wrist. The key
word here is “gently.” Even the
smallest movement can feel
huge and intense, and harsh
or large movements increase
the chance of you hitting and
bruising her cervix.
Finally, once you’re finished,
never yank your hand
out of your partner. Getting
out should be taken just as
slowly and gently as going
in. Also, remember that fisting
can make your partner
feel vulnerable, so be sure to
take the time to cool down together.
Fisting is intense, but it can
also be one of the most intimate
sexual activities you’ll
ever experience. So, if you
decide that fisting is for you,
just remember: use communication,
patience, time, foreplay,
and lube—lots and lots of
lube—to create an experience
you’ll never forget.